The IDIs and FGD explored the father’s support, the father’s knowledge and perception, and other reasons contribute to EBF.
1) Father’s support
Father’s support was mentioned by the mothers as one of the factors in planning and practicing breastfeeding. Most mothers already planned for EBF since pregnancy. Some discussed with the father and had his support, but some perceived that their husband did not care.
“We planned since pregnancy and delivery to exclusively breastfeed the baby until 6 months, she [the wife] told me if she had plans and we discussed” (Father 1)
“I did not know. We never talked about it” (Fathers 2, 3, 4)
“I did not talk about it with my husband, he never asked either” (Mother 6)
“Husband’s involvement is very important, many lactating mothers were confused, but the husbands think it was women’s business” (FGD)
“Men do not want to know about it [breastfeeding]” (FGD)
The father’s support was mentioned as a reason for remaining exclusively breastfed.
“Because I followed what the midwife advised to give only breastmilk for 6 months. The baby had no problem and my husband supported.” (Mothers 1, 4, 7)
“I gave support and gave motivation, listened, and encouraged her [mother]” (Father 8)
“My husband encouraged me” (Mothers 4, 9)
“My husband worked far away but he sent things as support, such as dates” (Mother 19)
“I was told [by father] to eat nutritious food to boost the breastmilk” (Mothers 9, 2, 11, 13, 14, 15, 16)
“I asked if the breastmilk is plenty, take a lot of vegetables if you [mother] were lactating. And also encourage [the mother] to breastfeed the baby so my wife does not feel exhausted … If I was not working, I helped with sweeping, washing clothes, and taking care of the baby” (Father 1)
The father’s support provides happiness and comfort to the mother. The mother felt less stressed and felt the attention increased their bonding as a couple which encouraged the mother to breastfeed.
“I am just happy. It affects my breastfeeding” (Mothers 7, 15, 16, 19)
“I just tried to make her [mother] happy and comfortable so she feels encouraged to breastfeed” (Father 8)
However, the father’s decision also mentioned being involved in EBF failure and early complementary feeding at 3 months. Most mothers asked for the father’s permission to give early complementary feeding.
“Most often, the mother was stressed, the nipple was cracked, and the husband was not supportive or supportive only when there was a problem” (NGO)
“It is my initiative to buy formula because the breastmilk seemed too little and the baby was crying a lot.I was confused and panicked and had no experience with the first child. I discussed with my wife after and stopped the formula and went back to breastfeeding.” (Father 3)
“There were times the breastmilk was little, we tried to find the solution together [decide to give early complementary feeding]” (Mother 14)
“I gave my child fruits because the father insisted, he thought the baby already craved [for food]” (Mother 15)
“I gave the baby formula without my husband knowing, because the baby was crying a lot” (Mother 16)
“Some mothers gave the formula with their initiative” (Midwife 1)
“Some mothers stopped exclusive breastfeeding because no support from husband and family” (Midwife 2, FGD)
“Father’s role is very important because a lot of lactating mothers were uncertain especially for the first breastfeeding. But some husbands think that it is women’s business” (FGD)
Other than breastfeeding, some mothers hoped that fathers would help them do the house chores, such as laundry, washing dishes, sweeping, and others. Some fathers help with chores and taking care of the newborn, however, some mothers do all the chores including looking after and nurturing the baby by themselves.
“I sometimes help with household chores, I did her work before went to work” (Fathers 5, 8)
“We share tasks” (Mothers 7, 9, 16)
“Some fathers since the wife got pregnant helped with laundry, dishes, and taking care of children” (FGD)
“It is the wife’s duty,I will help when I can” (Father 2)
“It was exhausting because I did it all on my own” (Mother 17)
“My husband was working and rarely at home” (Mother 18)
2) Father’s knowledge and perception
Fathers were more familiar with breastfeeding for at least 2 years compared to EBF. Some fathers knew the benefit of breastfeeding from midwives during ANC, while others were informed through digital social media.
“Never heard at all about exclusive breastfeeding” (Fathers 2, 3, 4, 10)
“Some father gave honey to the newborn” (FGD)
“Honey is safe for the newborn” (Fathers 3, 4
“Yes, I know from the midwife and also television advertisement that exclusive for 6 months [breastfeeding] so the baby could be close the his mom” (Father 8)
Father’s perception of early complementary feeding was diverse. Some did not object because the breastmilk was not plenty, but some others believe that breastmilk is best and healthier.
“When the breastmilk was still not plenty we gave formula. The information from the midwife, it is okay. My wife also gave food,Ithink it was okay” (Father 8)
“I feel that breastmilk is safer. Formula milk, I am afraid it could lead to obesity and digestive problems, I don’t know but I am afraid. Breastmilk is also cheaper” (Father 14)
“Breastfed baby is healthier” (Fathers 10, 13)
The lack of programs aiming to educate the father was a reason for the misconception about breastfeeding from the father’s perspective.
“There were no maternal and child health programs that involved the father in the community health center” (Midwife 2, Community health center representative, Health Office)
“Husbands mostly waited outside” (Health Office, FGD)
“Maybe if there was a male cadre, fathers would be more involved” (FGD)
3) Other reasons to remain exclusively breastfeeding
Some other reasons to remain exclusively breastfeeding the baby were explored, including mothers’ self-efficacy, mother’s knowledge, and experience, baby’s health, breastmilk still plenty, following the midwives’ advice, found no barriers to breastfeeding, the baby did not like formula milk, other milk caused an allergy and economical reason.
“No problem with breastfeeding, the breastmilk also still flowing” (Mothers 2, 13, 17, 11)
“I am sure I can provide breastmilk” (Mothers 7, 16, 20)
“Since this was not my first [baby], I already get used to it” (Mothers 4, 9, 16, 19)
“My baby did not like milk [formula] and also the skin was red when consumed [formula]” (Mother 8)
“Formula milk is expensive” (Mother 21)
“I was thinking about the baby, so the baby could be healthy. Breastmilk is good for immunity.” (Mother 12)
“Only breastmilk until 6 months, I was afraid of infection, the baby’s stomach is not ready yet for food.” (Father 1 and Mother 1)
“Mothers understood that breastmilk is cheaper” (Midwife 2)
“Breastfeeding and exclusive breastfeeding were explained during ANC” (Midwife 1, Midwife 2, FGD, Mother 2)